Hello I'm a highly committed Mediator and Relationship Counselling Professional located in Canberra. Loving relationships impact greatly on our ability to thrive and survive. When our relationships start to struggle or breakdown, we feel isolated - we are in pain. If you are feeling frustrated, uncared for, tired, angry, alone, panicky or even fearful for your future, you need to take action and get help.
Against all advice to "keep things brief", I've created a large website full of information on all aspects of relationship struggle. So even if seeing me right now isn't an option for you, my sincere intention is that in discovering my site, you might find some ideas on what your issues are, or how you might start to make things better.
Do you feel like the same problems keep coming up over and over again in your marriage?
Do you find yourself feeling alone even though you're in a relationship?
Have you ended a relationship and find yourself battling with your ex-partner?
Or are you struggling to get over a breakup, feeling in pain, angry or hopeless?
To feel loved, appreciated, safe and connected - isn't that what we all want? And if we're no longer in love, don't we want our ex to still value us, respect our opinion and act honorably? My professional life revolves around finding creative ways to help couples really understand each other through effective relationship counselling, separation discerning, mediation and break-up support.
I am gentle, empathetic, intuitive and caring but have a straightforward approachable manner. I am down-to-earth. You won't feel uncomfortable with me - as though you're sitting with an out-of-touch academic or clinical practitioner. I love to share humour to keep things real, but I will listen to you sensitively and compassionately, in whatever emotional state you are in, for as long as it takes, until you feel heard and understood.
If you're in a relationship - I will show you proven techniques for solving the never-ending cycle of conflict, the feeling that you'll never be good enough for your partner or that they will never put your needs first. I'd like to help you discover that it is possible to regain the connection you once felt with your partner.
If one of you is ready to leave, I will use discernment techniques designed to help you both examine if separation is the best step forwards. I will help you create breathing space that lets you both get on the same page.
If you're already separated, I'll help you finalise your time together in a constructive way and help you both feel empowered as you move forward. I also provide counselling for those finding a break-up too overwhelming, or who need support through the family law process
Contact me if you would like an appointment in Canberra or read more about me below.
Intensive relationship counselling offers you the opportunity to get away from the pressures of home or work and give you real time to really focus and sort out your relationship issues. Counselling work that might take 4 or 6 or more months in weekly counselling sessions can be done intensively and with very sound progress. However, intensives are not for everyone or all cases - some couples require weekly contact to help hold their conflict until it can de-escalate. I now run intensives in my Canberra office, although they are heavily booked.
When a relationship has ended amicably, dividing up assets or deciding living arrangements for children…
If relationships were easy, divorce and separation wouldn’t exist. We would all stay endlessly happy and in love. The reality is….
You might need help deciding if you should separate, or emotionally coping with after separation or in surviving your family law experience…
I may not be vastly different from some other counsellors or mediators - there are a considerable number of beautiful and talented therapists in this profession. I've worked with them, trained with them and am always in absolute awe of their skill and dedication.
What I do think I can offer you in difference to many others, however, is that I specialise in relationships from every angle. It's all I do. I am both a counsellor and a mediator - I work with couples pre and post separation. I work with grief after separation. I work in discernment - with couples where one or both might feel that they are ready to leave a relationship. Here they need help in trying to discern if staying in the relationship is a viable possibility. So relationship work is all I do, and I believe that means I am able to give you targeted understanding and support.
Given that counselling is expensive, I believe I represent good value. I'm trained in what I believe are the worlds leading techniques in relationship counselling - from John and Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson and Bill Doherty. My toolbox is full of the latest and proven techniques to give your relationship the best chance or help you end a relationship with dignity and compassion for each other. My 75 minutes sessions are longer than average, which allows more time to really explore once we start going deeper.
I am the first and only therapist with International Certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples in Canberra, proven to be the world's most effective form of couple therapy. I understand how relationships work, I see both common and unique themes in my office every day. I am highly motivated to help you.
